Every Bride Must Decide…

Those of you who follow my blog regularly (grateful thanks, obviously) will know that my daughter was a #LockdownBride.

Having had her wedding cancelled by the March restrictions, she re-booked for the end of September. The stress this was causing, when it looked like that too would be in jeopardy, made her decide to bring the date forward to early September, with both sets of parents making up the entire guest list.

Marking the occasion with her late grandmother’s rings and cameo photo taken 70 years ago.

Following the ceremony, a delightful lunch at a Michelin Star restaurant in Sussex, made for a memorable and highly personal experience. Rather than being a weeping bride; a victim of circumstance, she seized the moment and turned the day into a triumph.

Strangers calling out their congratulations after the ceremony and diners popping their heads around the door of the private dining room at the hotel to offer support, all added to the joy of the occasion.

Since that time, two friends have decided to do something similar; the end result for both has been a virtually stress-free wedding which the bride can enjoy, instead of worrying about vintage cars breaking down, favours not arriving, ill-fitting bridesmaids’ dresses, diplomatic seating plans and mass catering disasters – at a fraction of the cost.

This bride even made her own cake – Preston’s Pantry

The amount of positive feedback I received after my first post on the subject has given me food for thought; the whole wedding industry is huge in terms of expense and anxiety. Couples borrow money to pay for the perfect day, yet still find themselves wrung out emotionally and in a huge amount of debt. Do you really have a hundred close friends that you must invite to the occasion? Social media is such that they can all share your joy without having to be there in person.


For those that decide to postpone, good luck and I hope waiting works for you. For the many who are feeling so down about their lack of control over the situation, they don’t want to get dressed, a simple message – as soon as lockdown is lifted …


About Julie Haiselden

Between 1999-2019, I worked in the NHS and am now a Church of England verger and National Trust room guide. I've written three published novels and am an amateur blogger. As well as being a school alumna, I occasionally tread the boards. I enjoy rambling and taking photos. Since 2016, I've been part of the reviewing team at Whispering Stories.
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